Thursday, July 23, 2009

Pride vs. Humility

My best friend Chelsey is getting her masters at Masters college in biblical counseling. She has been sharing some great nuggets of truth with me. She recently sent me the notes pasted below on pride. Jesus is the picture of humility. Laying down His life for all. Oh Lord, please help me to be more like Your Son and less like myself...

Manifestations of Pride

Complaining against or passing judgment on God (Numbers 14:1-4, 9, 11; Romans 9:20)

A lack of gratitude (2 Chronicles 32:25) (because you think you deserved that act of kindness) (pride doesn't see that you deserve hell and anything above hell is a blessing)

Anger (Proverbs 28:25; Matthew 20:1-16) (a tip off of pride - something im wanting Im not getting... someone damaged my reputation... someone isnt meeting my needs... its about ME)

Seeing yourself as better than others (Luke 7:36-50)

Having an inflated view of your importance, gifts and abilities (Acts 12:21-23)

Being focused on the lack of your gifts and abilities (1 Cor. 12:14-25) (SELF FOCUSED)

Perfectionism (Matthew 23:24-28) (because someone excels in one or two areas... and they are not faithful in the rest of the areas... they want some sort of recognition... no one puts that much time and effort into something without wanting recognition) (God calls us to faithfulness, not perfection!!!!)

Talking too much (Proverbs 10:19) (when your not forced to speak - why are you still talking??? - what is your motive?)

Talking too much about yourself (Proverbs 27:2; Galatians 6:3)

Seeking independence or control (1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 5:21) (you were not made to be independent, but dependent upon God and interdependent on others)

Being consumed with what others think (Galatians 1:10) (approval - fear of man!)

Being devastated or angered by criticism (Proverbs 13:1) (You had such a high view of yourself that when someone doesn't agree -- you shut down!)

Being unteachable (Proverbs 19:20; John 9:13-34)

Being sarcastic, hurtful, degrading, talking down to them(Proverbs 12:18, 24) (laughing about someone else - so that you feel better about yourself)

A lack of service (Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 2:10)

A lack of compassion (Matthew 5:7, 18:23-35)

Being defensive or blame-shifting (Genesis 3:12-13; Proverbs 12:1) (thinking you couldn't have possibly done something wrong)

A lack of admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 10:17)

A lack of asking forgiveness (Matthew 5:23-24)

A lack of biblical prayer (Luke 18:10-14)

Resisting authority or being disrespectful (1 Peter 2:13-17)

Voicing preferences or opinions when not asked (Philippians 2:1-4) (You want others to know what you prefer) (keep your preferences to yourself! - think of others)

Minimizing your own sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5)

Maximizing others’ sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5; Luke 18:9-14)

Being impatient or irritable with others (Ephesians 4:31-32) (no one is on my schedule)

Being jealous or envious (1 Corinthians 13:4) ( I should have that... I deserve this)

Using others (Matthew 7:12; Philippians 2:3-4) (just a means to an end)

Being deceitful by covering up sins, faults, and mistakes (Proverbs 11:3; 28:13) (not being quick to ask for forgiveness) (you don't have to constantly talk about your faults - but you must be quick to repent!)

Using attention-getting tactics (1 Peter 3:3,4)

Not having close relationships (Proverbs 18:1-2; Hebrews 10:24-25)