Friday, July 31, 2009

Loving My Man

If you have known me long enough you have heard me talk about my favorite book (after the bible of course). It is called: Created to be His Helpmeet. It has helped me greatly to know practical ways that I can bless and honor my husband and in that my God! Our Lord calls us to reverence and respect our husbands as unto to Him. We do it not for ourselves nor for our husbands, but for our Father in heaven.

My husband is what the book refers to as a command man. He is one hundred percent command man (the other two types are visionary and steady). He is an AWESOME leader, confident and constant. I loved being able to read about ways that MY husband best receives love and respect. Please read the rest of the article to find out about your husband. It will benefit your marriage greatly.

Why is it important for us to know our men? Because we are created to be helpers. We need to know how we can best help/serve our spouses. The woman was created for man, not man for woman. Once we get married it is important for us to ADAPT to our husbands the best we can so that we can fulfill our purpose. Once we seek to do this we will begin to see the fruit of it in our marriage.

It is much easier for a man to love his wife if she is submissive and encouraging. If we are nagging and stubborn we are asking for a cold, non-affectionate husband. 1 Peter 3 says that our husbands are to be obeyed no matter what (of course this does not include cases of abuse or if they are asking us to sin). It goes on to say that our husbands can be "won over" not by words (nagging, griping etc.) BUT by our actions.

Be encouraged ladies. God has a great marriage for you as you seek to be the wife He calls you to be. Not by the world's standards but by His!

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Reactions Define You

If you have been around me long enough you will have heard me say: "reactions define you." So true. Anyone can "keep their cool" when things are good. It's when there is poop on the walls, the littlest one won't stop crying and your two year old loves to say no to you that the real you in revealed.

I am not patient. God is working on me greatly to respond with gentle calmness in my voice no matter the circumstances. We should not let our surroundings decide how we are going to respond. Our responses flow from our heart. If we are in the Word and meditating on it day and night our response will be one of maturity and joy.

I am working on this when I am disciplining Rhea. I have to make sure she is not affecting me and I prove that with my tone of voice. Our tone says A LOT.

I found this quote:

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Seeking to be happy

The whole world wants to be happy. Don't we? Unfortunately we seek for it in the wrong places. God says happy are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness for they shall be satisfied. God gives all sorts of recipes for happiness in His Word. Like this one from Psalm 40:

"Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) is the man who makes the Lord his refuge and trust, and turns not to the proud or to followers of false gods."

If we seek to be happy we should really seek the Lord. In Him alone is true joy. I love how this verse says that the happy person (blessed) will not turn to the proud or to those who follow false gods. Another way to say this is: "those who do not turn to the world and those who belong to the world."

In the amplified bible whenever the word blessed is used it gives the three words: happy, fortunate and envied. Check out some time and type in the word blessed (using the amplified version). Look to God's Word for how you can be happy, not the world's words.

A few ways for me to be happy today:

Be in the Word
Be submissive and loving toward my husband
Teach and guide my children with love and joy
Listen to Godly things like sermons
Work diligently at beautifying my home
Think on what is pure, lovely, etc.
Focusing on our future with the Lord (listen to this sermon)

What are some ways you can be happy today?

Here are some things that will steal my happiness:

Focus on self
Too much time on internet
Thinking on worldly things
Letting my house get messy
Not loving my children and husband with patience
Staying out of God's Word
Worrying about tomorrow

Only the Lord can make us truly happy.

Monday, July 27, 2009

What I want to teach my children

When children go to school the emphasis is for the most part academic. I don't know about you but I would guess out of the hundreds of hours I spent at a public school the things I learned are rarely used. (Another reason to homeschool). Reading is the exception. I definitely want to teach my children to read as well as to have a passion for reading. I am obviously not saying that there is no place for academics. There is. However we should focus on character and life skills. I think one of the best life skills we can teach our children is for them to know how to teach themselves.

Here are some things my husband and I want to emphasize and really seek to engrain into our children:

mow lawn (my husband's idea :0)
joy despite circumstances
loving the unlovable
a deep, personal, genuine love for God and His Word

Just to name a few. These are things that will definitely be used everyday for the rest of their lives (with the exception of the second one!) These are things I wish I would have been taught as early as possible.

It's important that we keep in mind our children will most likely be parents and spouses some day. What kind of qualities do we want them to bring to motherhood/fatherhood and marriage?

Most importantly we need to be MODELING these things in our lives. Remember, doing is a much better teaching tool then telling. Nobody likes a hypocrite. It's hard to learn anything from a hypocrite... except how to be a hypocrite!

What do you want to teach your children?

Saturday, July 25, 2009

The Heart IS the Matter

"Stopping the action does not cure the problem." -Britt Merrick. So true. The heart is the matter. Not the action. If you get an alcoholic to stop drinking it doesn't mean they don't crave alcohol. If you get someone to stop yelling it doesn't mean they don't struggle with anger. Jesus told the pharisees they were like white washed tombs, pretty on the outside and dead on the inside. Jesus sees our hearts. He knows if we are pure or just carrying out the actions, (that's called religion). We have a Lord that wants us to transfer these passions to Him. Leave them at the cross. Don't we all long for that? For our worldly lusts to be transformed into a deep love for our Creator? We need a heart a transplant, not just a change of action. (Although a change of action is good too).

Please listen to this sermon. It encouraged me greatly to not just DO the right thing but to seek something greater: a pure heart.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Pride vs. Humility

My best friend Chelsey is getting her masters at Masters college in biblical counseling. She has been sharing some great nuggets of truth with me. She recently sent me the notes pasted below on pride. Jesus is the picture of humility. Laying down His life for all. Oh Lord, please help me to be more like Your Son and less like myself...

Manifestations of Pride

Complaining against or passing judgment on God (Numbers 14:1-4, 9, 11; Romans 9:20)

A lack of gratitude (2 Chronicles 32:25) (because you think you deserved that act of kindness) (pride doesn't see that you deserve hell and anything above hell is a blessing)

Anger (Proverbs 28:25; Matthew 20:1-16) (a tip off of pride - something im wanting Im not getting... someone damaged my reputation... someone isnt meeting my needs... its about ME)

Seeing yourself as better than others (Luke 7:36-50)

Having an inflated view of your importance, gifts and abilities (Acts 12:21-23)

Being focused on the lack of your gifts and abilities (1 Cor. 12:14-25) (SELF FOCUSED)

Perfectionism (Matthew 23:24-28) (because someone excels in one or two areas... and they are not faithful in the rest of the areas... they want some sort of recognition... no one puts that much time and effort into something without wanting recognition) (God calls us to faithfulness, not perfection!!!!)

Talking too much (Proverbs 10:19) (when your not forced to speak - why are you still talking??? - what is your motive?)

Talking too much about yourself (Proverbs 27:2; Galatians 6:3)

Seeking independence or control (1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 5:21) (you were not made to be independent, but dependent upon God and interdependent on others)

Being consumed with what others think (Galatians 1:10) (approval - fear of man!)

Being devastated or angered by criticism (Proverbs 13:1) (You had such a high view of yourself that when someone doesn't agree -- you shut down!)

Being unteachable (Proverbs 19:20; John 9:13-34)

Being sarcastic, hurtful, degrading, talking down to them(Proverbs 12:18, 24) (laughing about someone else - so that you feel better about yourself)

A lack of service (Galatians 5:13, Ephesians 2:10)

A lack of compassion (Matthew 5:7, 18:23-35)

Being defensive or blame-shifting (Genesis 3:12-13; Proverbs 12:1) (thinking you couldn't have possibly done something wrong)

A lack of admitting when you are wrong (Proverbs 10:17)

A lack of asking forgiveness (Matthew 5:23-24)

A lack of biblical prayer (Luke 18:10-14)

Resisting authority or being disrespectful (1 Peter 2:13-17)

Voicing preferences or opinions when not asked (Philippians 2:1-4) (You want others to know what you prefer) (keep your preferences to yourself! - think of others)

Minimizing your own sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5)

Maximizing others’ sin and shortcomings (Matthew 7:3-5; Luke 18:9-14)

Being impatient or irritable with others (Ephesians 4:31-32) (no one is on my schedule)

Being jealous or envious (1 Corinthians 13:4) ( I should have that... I deserve this)

Using others (Matthew 7:12; Philippians 2:3-4) (just a means to an end)

Being deceitful by covering up sins, faults, and mistakes (Proverbs 11:3; 28:13) (not being quick to ask for forgiveness) (you don't have to constantly talk about your faults - but you must be quick to repent!)

Using attention-getting tactics (1 Peter 3:3,4)

Not having close relationships (Proverbs 18:1-2; Hebrews 10:24-25)

Tuesday, July 21, 2009


I was very sick this morning. Identical to how I feel when pregnant. It sobered me greatly. (I am not pregnant. took two tests) Watching my children, keeping a home and being a good wife go out the window when I am pregnant. I started contemplating adoption (I have thought of adoption since I was a little girl). So many children out there with no one to call mom or dad.

There are over 100,000 orphans just within America! Waiting to be invited into someone's home.

The Lord knows the future for our family. I pray that some day we will adopt children so we can love them with His love.

Here are a few sites with good info and videos!

One of Steven Curtis Chapman's daughters talks about "hidden treasures"

Monday, July 20, 2009

Wasting time part 2

Do you ever feel like this guy in the picture? Like your drowning in time? I continue to ponder the idea of wasting time and it seems many other bloggers are doing the same. One post that blessed my heart so much can be found here. Could you imagine if we lived everyday from the perspective of our death bed? Would we regret not watching more tv? Not being on the internet enough? Not cleaning our house more? (I do believe our homes should be clean. but even cleaning can become an idol.) No of course not! We would regret not having more hugs with our kiddos and hubbies! We would regret not spending more time worshipping our King. Oh to have this eternal perspective! We certainly would have the ability to naturally spend our time wisely! Pasted below is another convicting article on not wasting our precious time on useless things.

Guidelines for Using Our Time Wisely
From Holy Living and Holy Dying, Jeremy Taylor (1613-1667)
Edited by Marvin D. Hinten
1. In the morning, when you awaken, accustom yourself to think first upon God; and at night, let Him close your eyes. Let your rest be health ful and necessary, not just idle time.
2. Let all your intervals or open moments of time be employed in prayer, reading, meditation, exercise, and acts of friendship.
3. Sundays and holidays are in no sense mere days of idleness. It is better to work on Sundays than to do nothing. Instead of idly wasting time, let those days be spent doing charitable and reli gious work.
4. Avoid the company of all who talk too much without a purpose. No one can be careful in his use of time who is careless in his choice of com pany, for when a conversationalist continually speaks emptiness or trivia, all who listen or answer waste their time.
5. Never engage in any trifling activity merely to pass the time away, for every day well spent can become a "day of salvation" (2 Cor. 6:2 NW), and any time rightly used is an "opportune moment" (Ps. 69:13). The time you trifle away was given to you to repent, to pray, to lay up heavenly treasure
6. While working, go often to God in brief prayers. These times of prayer can make up the lack of devotional time, which others may have, and which you wish you had. Be sure of this: God is as present at your breathed prayers on the job as at the longer prayers of those who are less employed
7. Let your employment be fitting for a reasonable person. A person may be idle though busy. There are entire occupations devoted to vanity and foolishness that deserve to be banned. And there are some people who are genuinely busy, but it is in the way the Emperor Domitian once claimed to be busy: catching flies
8. Let those who are independently wealthy or retired be extra careful in their use of time. Let them choose good company and learn useful things. Let them visit the poor and relieve their needs, pray often, and read good books
9. Everyone should avoid excessive attention to appearance. Many people primp and comb away all their opportunities for morning devotions.
10. People should avoid idle curiosity and inquiring into things that do not concern them. Of course, we should be aware of the needs of our fellow believers, but one need not be a gossip to learn his brothers' needs.
11. As much as possible, cut off all useless occupa tions of your life: unnecessary meetings, day dreaming, reading about celebrities, or however time is spent to no real purpose.
12. Do not spend time lavishly in recreation, but choose leisure activities that are healthful, brief, and refreshing. Avoid games that require too much time or involvement, or which are likely to dominate your thoughts. Do not dwell upon them or make them your major enterprises. And don't think that spectator sports are real exercise. A person who passively spends his time watching sports and calls it exercise makes about as much sense as a person who wears a belt without wear ing any pants. It is permissible to relax our bow but not to unstring it.
13. Set aside some parts of every day specifically for prayer and devotion. Events may force you to shorten your devotional time occasionally, but do not omit it under anything less than absolute necessity.
14. Do God's work attentively. Do not let your hands be folded in prayer while your thoughts are on the world. Do not pray negligently. Put forth all your strength.
15. Fill hours of insomnia with prayer, since you have no requirements on your time then.
16. The busy person should set aside a holy time every year in which, ignoring his occupation, he may give himself wholly to fasting and prayer, to confession and attention to God.
17. Before we sleep we might well examine our actions during the day, especially anything unusual. For our failures we will have sorrow, and for our victories we will have thanksgiving.
18. All these points should be used wisely, not vex ingly. These guidelines have advantages, but they are not divine commandments, at least not their specifics. Every person may select whatever process enables him to do his Christian duty. A man will be happy when he can use every hour in a useful or holy way, but our duty does not consist in just scrupulously examining how we use our minutes (provided no minute is engaged in sin).
19. The habit of using time wisely will influence our whole lives, and will especially benefit us in two ways. It doesn’t just teach us to avoid evil but encourages us to do good. And it causes us to be ready and eager for the Lord’s return at any time.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Rhea turned two!

Click here to see us sing happy birthday to my sweet girl!

A Sacrifice of Praise

I had talked to a couple girlfriends recently about my struggle with postpartum depression after the birth of both my babies. It is amazing how powerful our hormones can be! Something that encouraged me greatly, and I hope encourages you in your "down" times, is that we can offer up a sacrifice of praise when feeling sad. I remember sitting on the couch singing this song holding Rhea. The song washed over me as I sang to the Lord. It is only in our trying times that it is a SACRIFICE to praise, right? I mean, what kind of sacrifice is it to praise the Lord when all is well?

This scripture puts into words beautifully what I am talking about: Hebrews 13:15 "Through Him, therefore, let us constantly and at all times offer up to God a sacrifice of praise, which is the fruit of lips that thankfully acknowledge and confess and glorify His name."

The key to joy in this life is to get the focus off ourselves and onto God or others. God receives glory when we praise Him in the storm. Try it out today!

p.s. here is another great one to sing!

Thursday, July 16, 2009


I am not infertile but I can only imagine the pain with being so. I found this post on a woman's blog who is infertile. To read the whole article click here. I found this to be very insightful. If you are able to conceive I don't think you or I, can even imagine what it would be like to not be able to. This woman put into sad words the pain she experiences. I think it gives keen insight into what not to say!

Fertility issues are so many bits of pain:

*not sharing with family members about your health, for fear of getting their hopes up and being a disappointment to everyone.

*being called selfish for having been married "too long" to not yet have children.

*being asked embarrassing questions about your love life and receiving "tips" from those who feel they have special insight into why a child has not yet been conceived.

*the stab in your heart upon receiving a monthly update email from Enfamil, for your "five month old baby" --the one you miscarried last year.

*being berated for the selfishness of having a "lonely only" or being called a "hobbyist mother" as if these unfortunate circumstances were your choice or doing.

*not sharing about a pregnancy until baby is past the point of viability, as you've already learn that embarrassing lesson last time around.

*being constantly asked about when you will make someone a grandparent for the first time or when a sibling will be joining the family, as if you are somehow causing the problem and have control over the situation.

*crying every month as yet another Big Fat NEGATIVE result comes on a pregnancy test, the 36th you've received in three years time.

*having "radar" & zeroing in on every pregnant woman when you are out & about or having tunnel vision towards every baby who would have been old as your should be right now.

*feeling like a failure as a wife, as a daughter, as a sister, as a mother, for not producing the baby that would add another generation to the family and/or a sibling for the child/ren you already have.

*sobbing on the bathroom floor at a friends baby shower because shes pregnant on the first try after you've tried everything and have yet to become a mom.

*being told you'll never conceive and knowing you can never afford to adopt, all while millions of babies are unloved this very evening.

*feeling nasty self righteousness and great devastation and anger when the news reports of someone who drowned their baby in the toilet or you think of the millions of baby's aborted each year, wondering why God couldn't give one of these babies to you, for you'd love him/her with all your heart and would never kill such a precious gift.

*another anniversary with a "fun" childless vacation when you want nothing more than a little newborn's cry waking you up every morning, before the crack of dawn.

*feeling as if you are the barren sister in a fertility cult, as everyone around you is expecting or just had a baby.

*dreading "the question" when it comes up everywhere, even during small talk with a stranger in a doctors waiting room.

A speech for mothers from a 1838 tea party

SO good!


Our meeting today has special reference to ourselves and to our children. We meet as mothers, to provoke one another to love and to good works--to call up to remembrance our past negligences, and to combine our renewed determinations to serve God in our families, with earnest supplication for the divine assistance and blessing. Standing, as we do, on the brink of the old year and the borders of the new, surely it is an appropriate season for devout acknowledgment, tenderhearted confession, and united prayer. If our heavenly Father will require at our hands that which is past, shall we not carefully review it, and seriously inquire, "What have I done?" What have I done for my own soul--what have I done for the eternal welfare of my beloved children? Have I been faithful to my solemn responsibility? Have I walked before my house with a perfect heart? Have I uniformly regarded my children as a sacred trust, and has it been my unremitting concern to train them up for Christ? Have I had my heart deeply affected with their lost and unsaved condition? Have I wept over their impenitence and unbelief, and have I tried by every means, and by every discussion, to bring them to the Great Physician? Have I sought His aid by hearty, frequent, and special prayer, nothing doubting, but "strong in faith, giving glory to His name?" Have I consulted the Bible as the rule of my conduct towards them, just as diligently as I should consult a guidebook, if I had to undertake a long and arduous journey? Have I conversed with them, according to their ages and circumstances, on spiritual subjects, so as to touch their consciences, to win their affections, and to convince them that there is nothing so important to me as their salvation? Have I endeavored for their sakes to be spiritually minded, to cultivate my mind, to restrain my appetites, to control my feelings, and to grow in the exercise of every Christian grace?

Alas for us, my friends! Who can lay her hand upon her heart and say, "I have washed my hands in innocency?" Not one. Are we not individually ready to confess our manifold offenses towards our offspring? Do we not, even on this hasty recollection, call to mind much that we would fain obliterate? Are we not sensible of yielding to slothfulness and indifference? Have we not often restrained prayer, or prayed with faint expectation of success? Has not our example been frequently of the worst description--worldly, trifling, and unprofitable? Have we not given them an unlovely representation of the religion we profess, by the indulgence of those dispositions which Christianity is mighty to subdue? If, then, dear friends, our children are still in darkness--still in spiritual bondage--still unsanctified, let us not reflect upon Providence, but upon ourselves. If we are to have a change in them, ought there not also to be a change in us? Let us, as mothers, apply ourselves more seriously to discover our individual errors. One may err by excessive indulgence--another by undue severity; one may slight prayers--another may neglect corresponding effort. There are innumerable ways in which we may prejudice their minds and harden their hearts. What then are we to do? And here I would say, we must be more thoughtful. Inconsideration is at the root of much that is wrong in families and individuals. We do not devote sufficient time to quiet, patient, solitary thought. We adopt a system suited to our inclinations, and pursue it with little examination as to its effects. We are contented to do as others do, not striving to do better. Then we must be more in earnest for our children's salvation. If we were truly set on this, how should we explore the Word of God for its hidden consolations--its promises and its instructions! How should we pursue our inquiries of those whom God has been pleased to bless, and how should we watch as those who must soon give their account! Look at the vigilance and care of the gardener, rising early and late, taking no rest, anticipating every atmospheric change, studying every characteristic variety in his tender plants, now exposing them to the sun, now screening them from its power, and pursuing the greatest diversity of means to one end--the perfection of the young vegetable. Ah! Have we the hearts of mothers, and can we be satisfied whilst any one of our children is living "without God and without hope in the world?" Impossible! The supposition shocks us; and yet, to exemplify and carry out this earnestness, involves a life of much diligence, of daily self-denial, of increasing devotedness. Added to this, and connected with it in all its details, must be prayer--importunate, unceasing prayer: not the prayer which is offered up and forgotten, but the prayer which is attended by an unquenchable desire, and succeeded by a well-directed effort;--prayer founded on the promise of the covenant, and which will not be denied. When we have such consideration, such earnestness, and such prayer, we shall not be long without a blessing.

Should we not embrace every day as a favorable opportunity put into our hands, and redeem it for advancing their spiritual interests? If every mother would keep this subject uppermost in her thoughts, and secretly resolve to let no day pass without a direct effort for her children's good, much would be gained. If she would apply herself to their characters, tastes, and habits, sympathize with them in their useful pursuits, invite their confidence, and accommodate herself to their youthful feelings, she might persuade them to cooperate with her in higher and holier undertakings. O, how desirable it would be to gather our children around us at the opening or at the close of each day, and read with them a portion of the sacred Scriptures, making our own remarks, and inviting theirs! And surely this may be done, if we set about it in the right way, and in the right spirit. Let children themselves arrange the plan, and they will carry it out with greater interest. Let them keep a short record of the time thus profitably spent, and they will recur to it with much satisfaction. Especially let us enter afresh into our closets, and there implore a double measure of divine grace to rest upon us. We all feel how much our usefulness to others depends on the state of our own souls. Let us therefore begin at home--begin with ourselves, and proceed, as Job proceeded, to intercede for every individual of our beloved circle. O, we ought not to despair of the divine goodness! God waits to be gracious; he loves to be entreated; and instead of rebuking us for our importunity, He says, "Hitherto ye have asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full."

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Great Thoughts on our King!

In proportion to your devotion to the Savior will be the blessedness of your life.

The greatest saint on earth has got to reach Heaven on the same terms as the greatest sinner; unworthy, unfit, good-for-nothing; but saved through grace.

One minute of nearness to the Lord Jesus contains more delight than years spent in communion with any earthly friend.

You never will be really happy until Christ becomes your dearest and most intimate friend.

Seek God, not joy.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

What does it profit?

Speaking of wasting time. I spent way too much time fretting and worrying last night. Kept me up too late. God tells us not to worry. It profits us nothing. God's grace is sufficient for today and therefore I must trust it will be sufficient for tomorrow. To listen to an AWESOME sermon on this subject click here.

Wasting Time?

Wasting time. What does it mean to you? I think some things we consider wasting time might be the best use of our time. Like...

1. Sitting with our children on the floor playing

2. Kissing my little baby over and over

3. reading a "silly" book to my two year old

4. cuddling with our husbands

5. just sitting outside and enjoying the outdoors

There are so many ways to use our time isn't there? Have you ever heard the saying: "Do you love life? Then do not waste time for that is what life is made of."? The important thing is to have God's perspective on using the time He has given us. The question is: How can we impact eternity while living here on earth?

There are only two things that last forever that we have now: The Word of God and people. If we are "wasting time" on either of these then we are making good use of our time. We can't take our house with us. It won't matter if it was perfectly clean or not. We can't take our computer with us. We can't take the television with us. It won't matter if you got to watch that "one show". We can't take our cell phones with us. You get my drift. "Waste time" on things that last and you will have no regrets.

Nancy Leigh Demoss did a series on priorities. You can check it out by clicking here. A few scriptures she pointed out ministered to me in regards on how we should prioritize our time. Here is what she said:

"Jesus said in Matthew chapter 6, verse 33, “Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness.” Seek His ways. Seek His pathway. Seek His kingdom. Seek what matters to Him. And all these other things in life that are not the priority—the ones that you need will be added unto you.

Proverbs chapter 4, verse 7: “Wisdom is the principle thing; therefore get wisdom.” Where does wisdom come from? What is wisdom? Wisdom is looking at all of life from God’s point of view. Proverbs says that wisdom is the principle thing. Get God. Get a relationship with God. Get His perspective on life.

Colossians chapter 1, verse 18: “The goal,” Paul says, “is that in all things Christ might have the pre-eminence” (paraphrased). Pre-eminence. What does that word mean? I looked it up this morning. It means to be first—that Christ might be first. The head of all things. The spring of all things. The fountain of all of life. The supremacy of Christ. This is my priority.

Psalm chapter 27, verse 4, the Psalmist said, “One thing I have desired [one thing] of the LORD, that will I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the LORD and to inquire in His temple.” The Psalmist said, “My number one priority in life is to live in the presence of God, to learn from Him, to love Him with all my heart.”

Jesus said to the harried Martha, busy doing something very important, but missing out on the priority. He said, “Martha, only one thing is needful in life. One thing is absolutely necessary and that is your relationship with Me” (Luke 10:22, paraphrased). That’s what supremely matters.

Now, if we’re going to have first things first, if we’re going to prioritize God’s priorities for our lives (and the first one of those for every believer being a relationship with God), we’ve got to remember the necessity of the Word of God and spending time with God in His Word. Jesus said, “Man does not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God” (Matthew 4:4, NIV).

Job chapter 23, verse 12, Job said, “I have treasured the words of His mouth more than my necessary food.” You want to fulfill that number one priority in life? It’s impossible apart from spiritual food, and we get that spiritual food in the Word of God. That means there has to be time in my day to be in the Word, to be in the presence of God, to be listening to God, to be responding to God."

Monday, July 13, 2009

Great Prayer

I have been thinking about prayer a lot. When we do "prayer requests" I ponder what the apostles prayed for others. Here is a great prayer that Paul had for the philippians.

Philippians 1:9-10

"And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more and extend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment, so that you may surely learn to sense what is vital, and approve and prize what is excellent and of real value recognizing the highest and the best, and distinguishing the moral differences, and that you may be untainted and pure and unerring and blameless so that with hearts sincere and certain and unsullied, you may approach the day of Christ not stumbling nor causing others to stumble."

Now that's a prayer! Next time your wondering what to pray for someone, try this one out!

Sunday, July 12, 2009

The Frontier Way...

Oh the good old days. My friend Tammy turned me on to this show called Frontier House. I love it! Makes me appreciate all that I have now. All the conveniences. All the luxuries. I heard one time that with all the equipment we have to help with dishes, food, laundry etc. it would be equal to 10 servants back in the frontier life!

Enjoy this clip from the show. Click here.

Friday, July 10, 2009

No sense crying over spilled... Poop?

Well, my daughter has a new lovely habit. Pooping outside. She doesn't have a diaper on though. Why? you ask. Good question. Because I have her take it off to go in her mini pool. Those swimmer diapers are too expensive to be putting them on her and throwing away every time she wants to go "swimming" (which averages about 10 minutes). So you follow the logic right? right?...

So anyway, where was I?... ah yes, spilled poop. Usually Rhea comes running to me inside and says "Pee! Pee!" Which means poop. So I go out there and pick if up with some napkins throw it away and throughly was our hands. Worked fine. Well today she decided to play with the poop and then decided to come inside and tell me "Pee! Pee!" When I looked at her nasty little hands I was disgusted. I went outside to find poop smeared around... I was about to lose my cool. And then I thought of proverbs 17:27 "a man of understanding has a cool spirit." Understanding what? I think when we realize how silly it is to get upset and "lose our cool" over things like spilled poop, we gain understanding. We must view all things in light of eternity. My poor husband has to put up with my hysteria over silliness too often. I also thought of Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom." If I would only see the preciousness of each day I would gain a heart of wisdom knowing that life is too short to "lose it" over trivial, fixable things.

So next time the milk spills, a plate breaks, the poop is smeared... keep eternity in mind. Keep your cool and then you shall begin to gain a heart of wisdom and understanding.

My Kind of homeschooling...

In researching homeschooling I have found the Charlotte Mason method to be my favorite so far. I have pasted below an excerpt from a website describing her methods. If you want to see more click here.

Charlotte Mason was a British educator who lived in the late 1800s and early 1900s. Her method, the Charlotte Mason method, is centered around the idea that education is three-pronged: Education is an Atmosphere, a Discipline, a Life.

By “Atmosphere,” Charlotte meant the surroundings in which the child grows up. A child absorbs a lot from his home environment. Charlotte believed that atmosphere makes up one-third of a child’s education.

By “Discipline,” Charlotte meant the discipline of good habits — and specifically habits of character. Cultivating good habits in your child’s life make up another third of his education.

The other third of education, “Life,” applies to academics. Charlotte believed that we should give children living thoughts and ideas, not just dry facts. So all of her methods for teaching the various school subjects are built around that concept.

For example, Charlotte’s students used living books rather than dry textbooks. Living books are usually written in story form by one author who has a passion for the subject. A living book makes the subject “come alive.”

She taught spelling by using passages from great books that communicate great ideas rather than just a list of words.

She encouraged spending time outdoors, interacting with God’s creation firsthand and learning the living ways of nature.

You can see many other living methods she used on this methods chart.

Many homeschoolers have adopted her philosophy and methods as they seek to educate the whole child, not just his or her mind.

Thursday, July 9, 2009


I like this picture of a mother with her son. As we guide our children through this life we carry great responsibility. One of those responsibilities is consistent discipline. I am reading a book called: The Mother at Home by John Abbot. The first chapter is titled "Responsibility".

Here is an excerpt from this chapter that pierced my heart:

"His character is now, in an important sense, in your hands, and you are to form it for good or evil. If you are consistent in your government, and faithful in the discharge of your duties, your child will probably through life revere you and be your solace of your declining years...It is true that there are many mothers who feel their responsibilities perhaps as deeply as it is best they should feel them. But there are many others-even Christian mothers-who seem to forget that their children will ever be less under their control than they are while young. And they are training them up, by indecision and indulgence, soon to tyrannize over their parents with a rod of iron-and to pierce their hearts with many sorrows. If you are unfaithful to your child when he is young, he will be unfaithful to you when he is old. If you indulge him in all his foolish and unreasonable wishes when he is a child when he becomes a man he will indulge himself; he will gratify every desire of his heart and your sufferings will be rendered the more poignant by the reflection that it was your own unfaithfulness which has caused his ruin. If you would be the happy mother of a happy child, give your attention, and your efforts and your prayers, to the great duty of training him up for God and heaven."

Can we say sobering?...


Another touchy subject and one I know little about. I thought I knew enough but now I am questioning myself. when to spank? how to spank? what should I spank with? should I spank for pouting, whining...?

Last night was the first night I used a rod (a paddle) to spank Rhea. It was MUCH more effective then my hand has been. It was hard for me. I had to remind myself of scriptures that the Lord used to describe how we should discipline our children:

Prov. 13:24 "He who spares his rod of discipline hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines diligently and punishes him early."

Prov. 22:15 "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him."

Prov. 23:13-14 "Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. 14 Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death."

Prov. 29:15 "The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother."

I don't spank because I want to. I spank because God says it works. I know the more consistent I am with delivering appropriate discipline at the appropriate time the more peaceful my home will be.

I emailed someone whom I consider to be one of my closest friends and mentors (Naida) and asked her what she thought. Here is what she said:

1.If you say "no" and she stops, no spanking.
2. If you say "no" and she doesn't stop, spanking.
3. Warning: "If you do that (be specific what it is she shouldn't be doing) and she does it, spanking.
4. With things like hitting and whining - spanking. Reiterating after the incident is a good reminder.

more to come...