Saturday, April 27, 2013

Reversing Our Decision

I read THIS post this morning and I was so encouraged by her story! It made me want to share our "reversal story".

Scott and I really struggled with the decision on how many children to have. I really think it is a bigger decision than deciding who you will marry. Let me explain. Who you marry will affect many (especially yourself) but how many children you choose to have determines if someone is born! And if you decide to let that someone be born then you are deciding for generations of others to be born! That is insane. Just sayin'.

I remember vividly standing in the kitchen doing dishes when Scott and I were in the middle of deciding to have a vasectomy reversal or not and I said to the Lord: "I just don't feel like I am wise enough to decide if and when life should come into this world." That was a turning point for me...

I have what is called hyperemesis, you can read about it here. Basically I am ridiculously sick throughout my entire pregnancy. I puke... A LOT and I am always nauseous, up till the moment they come out (I puke even through out labor). This is difficult. When Scott and I got married we said we would let God plan our family... that was before I had ever been pregnant and experienced what felt like death... ironically while my body was producing life!

After that first pregnancy I was greatly sobered... and scared! "I can't keep doing this!" I thought. How am I going to home school and have kids back to back and be sick and....? you get the point.

Well fear took over and Scott got a vasectomy. We never really felt perfect peace about it but we didn't see the alternative as a possibility... at the time.

Then we moved to a new town and became part of a new church with some families that let God plan their families and we were convicted... again. We really felt there would be a lot of support here if we chose to have the reversal and so we did!

Charis (pronounced: care-is...sounds like Paris with a C) was born in February (14 months after the reversal). Her name means grace and we really do see her as God's grace in our lives.

So thankful that we were able to reverse our decision and we are excited to meet whatever children the Lord decides to bless us with! I can't believe that sweet little Charis wouldn't be here if we had stuck with our initial decision!

Feel free to message me or comment with any thoughts or questions. I know this is a sensitive subject and my goal is not to offend but to encourage those who are considering reversing their decision.

A picture of our four kiddos with our sweet little Charis! (she is often the center of their attention :)

Our sweet little doll baby, Charis. Thank you Lord!


  1. I love how Facebook sends me places I never would have gone otherwise. Congratulations, Mama and Dad! God is so good!

  2. I am finding your life fascinating. I am curious if you found any relief from the nausea & puking. Do you just get used to it & do you gain enough weight for the baby to grow normally? Now I will go read your link on hyperemesis & see what I can learn. Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia

  3. Hello Cynthia! I did find much relief... unfortunately that relief comes through eating! boo. :) So I gain 50 lbs on average in my pregnancies... the only way to keep from puking is to eat. I even have to bring fruit to bed with me at night because my nausea wakes me up two to three times a night. no fun. but I get a beautiful little life out of it! I am figuring out hyperemesis more and more with each pregnancy. God is giving me freedom from my fear of it. Yes it is horrible and a struggle but He works even in the horrible and in our struggles!

    Thank you so much for your comments and kind words!

  4. Yay for babies! I think it's wonderful when people are open to life. :)

  5. Loved this story. If my husband had not been so resistant to getting a vasectomy, we too would have sterilized our marriage a long time ago - and lived to regret it. Thankfully he stayed strong in his refusal during the years when I wanted to end our childbearing, and now we are able to be open to the Lord's gift of children with both of us fully on board.

    Thank you for sharing this!!

    1. wow Diana! What a testimony of your husband's conviction! Puts a pit in my stomach to think of how I nagged and nagged my husband... At this point all I can do is give thanks though that there is such a thing as a reversal and that we are now reaping the fruit of it :) Thanks for stopping by Diana! I too am so happy to find such a like minded sister!

    2. Agreed, and amen! :) Yes, we would have been down the reversal path ourselves if my husband hadn't been adamantly against getting a vasectomy. Both of our pastors' families are reversal-story families as well! :)

  6. Thank you for sharing. We have 3 small kids and are thinking about reversal. I had hyperemisis this last time and it does feel like slow torture. I couldnt be there very well for my other two during the sickness. Also I'm so sick of being hormonal. I do wish I knew for sure what to do.

    1. I understand. be sure to check out my most recent post on this.