Thursday, April 18, 2013

A Godly Mother Part 6

#6) A godly mother disciplines her children in love. A worldly mother spoils her children.

Proverbs 13:24 says: “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” 

The world tells us those who hate their children spank them but that’s not what God says. God says if you love them you will spank them.

This was one of Scott and I’s first disagreements. I had just gotten my degree in psychology and I decided spanking was bad. Scott said: “We aren’t going to spank our children because it’s what we want to do or because the world says it is a good form of punishment. We will spank because God tells us to do it and He said if we don’t we hate our children. He knows best.” That was a memorable moment.

I don’t discipline my children because I want to. I am NOT a disciplinarian by nature. I am a passive parent by nature. But I know passivity in parenting is not God’s best and so with my husband and God’s help I work at disciplining my children consistently and in love.

(We are in a "spanking season" right now with four kids five and under :)

I do find though that I rarely spank my four and five year old. Probably because they know if they disobey they will get spanked. Which brings me to another point, don't make empty threats! Be consistent! That is so important. I find sometimes on days when I am in a bad mood that I will spank more... how horrible!! I should spank consistently and in love. Not because I am in a bad mood.

Discpline your children consistently, in love, because you love them and you wants God's best for them.  

p.s. never spank a child for being a child (spills/accidents). Spank a child for disobedience/rebellion.