Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Struggle #2-Loneliness

The second common struggle women face is: loneliness. (The first one I discussed was clutter. You can read that post here).

Albert Einstein once said, “It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely.”  You can be the most active woman in church -- volunteering yourself like crazy and hosting every party -- but be riddled with loneliness.

What is loneliness? Ironically it’s not being alone. The strange thing about loneliness is that we feel it most intently when we are with people. Loneliness is the knowing in our heart that we were created to really, truly know each other in the deepest sense but we feel stuck with superficiality. But we don't have to remain there. You can initiate getting to know people in real, transparent ways. Talk about things other than the weather, fashion and the latest in Hollywood/movies (who cares?!!) When someone asks: "How are you?" Be honest!

We want to talk about real issues. We want to be known. But we have to be real in order to be known. When we are known we aren't as lonely.

According to surveys, one of the three greatest fears of teen girls is that they will never be truly known and loved. I’m not sure we ever outgrow that, girls! Some of the loneliest women I know are married.  

Even Jesus experienced acute loneliness. His disciples forsook him and fled in his hour of greatest need. In that darkness of loneliness, Jesus confessed His unshaken confidence in the presence of God when he said, “You will leave Me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for My Father is with me.” (John 16:32)

No one will ever fully make you feel complete/not alone except your Creator. The sooner you accept that the less loneliness you will exp
erience! He alone knows us fully. He alone can make you not feel alone.